Self-Care is Self-Love, sis 💕

Hey, dolls hey! Happpyyyy Feel Good Fridayyyy!! I wanted to you send YOU some LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!! *in my Keyshia Cole’s voice! Today, I wanted to let you know that


  • You are Fine, 
  • You are Fearless,
  • You are Powerful,
  • You are Enough!

I hope all of you enjoyed your week and your Valentine’s Day, whether it was with your boo, your family, your friends, your kids, or you spent the day with yourself. I hope whoever you spent the day with made YOU feel special. I saw so much LOVE!! I saw so many women celebrating themselves and I LOVE to see it!!

This year I was my own Valentine and to be perfectly honest despite the rain, I enjoyed myself. I did everything that I wanted to do and it felt good to pour into myself. By the way, I’m blocking ALL shots. LOL

I’m good luv, enjoy 


So… I can’t even lie! I was a little emotional about the day approaching, but I was determined to be intentional about my day to pamper and honor myself. Here’s how I honored myself for Valentine’s Day.

Heavy on protecting MY peace! I started prepping my energy in advance. I lit up my “Not Tuhday, Satan” sage stick to cleanse my space and took advantage of the energy from the New Moon in Aquarius to release any old energies. I lit up “The Not Tuhday, Satan” candle to set the vibes and journaled for about 20 minutes. I took the first ten minutes to write down everything I wanted to release from old habits to old beliefs that no longer served me. I took the last ten minutes to write down everything I wanted to manifest and welcome into my life.

It doesn’t have to be a New Moon to set an intention and release thoughts and feelings that no longer serve you. YOU can choose at any time and day that you want to feel good and think differently.

Fresh flowers are my thing now. I’m always grabbing a dozen of flowers from Harris Teeter every other week. I love waking up to the smell of fresh flowers. I brought two dozen gorgeous red and pink roses to sit on my nightstand in my bedroom. CAUSE WHO AIN’T WAKING UP TO FLOWERS? TUH! LOL Seriously though, I think it so important as women, we treat and honor ourselves.

I spent the morning of Valentine’s Day letting Sarah J Roberts snatch my edges and get my life while cooking waffles with shrimp and grits and drinking a glass of Prosecco. Baby, we praise God and give THANKS over here! Okayyyyy!!!

After breakfast, I set the vibes with the “Self-Care is Self-Love, sis” Apple playlist to get ready to shower and do my makeup. Music is one of the best ways to increase your energy. I danced and sang in front of my vanity with my robe on, a full-blown concert! LOL

As I was doing my brows, I received a text message from Hand and Stone to confirm my upcoming massage appointment. With the quickness, I replied with “Confirmed”. Cause baby, I wasn’t missing it! My masseuse was AHMAZING! The best 60 minutes of my day! I had to tip my girl good! Almost signed up for the monthly plan, but God said slow down Lil baby as I approached the desk to checkout. Every other month is in the budget right now. STICK TO THE BUDGET!

Afterward, I grabbed a drink at a bar and lounge and went to the movies. By the way, if you haven’t seen Judas and the Black Messiah, please watch it (HBO or in the movies). It was recommended to me by a friend and it was so good. Y’all probably reading this thinking “Damn, she went to the movies by herself.” I sure did and brought my popcorn too. I wanted to support AMC theatres, especially after escaping bankruptcy. I love a comeback story.

I ended the night with an Organic Coconut Milk Bath, affirmations, and more PROSECCO! Milk Baths are a great way to cleanse your skin and gently exfoliate to help your body relax and unwind. 

All and all, my Valentine’s Day was very different this year yet fulfilling and relaxing. It was a day of loving on myself mentally, spiritually, and emotionally and just doing what I wanted to do. I don’t want to sound like one of those independent women who don’t need or want anybody. Because I love intimacy and being able to give and receive.

I just wanted to remind YOU that pouring into your cup will protect you from low-quality experiences! Don’t be afraid to LOVE yourself OUT LOUD and do things that make you feel GOOD!


Sending you love and light! 🦋 Have an amazing weekend!

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Thank you for this reminder, more women need to see this! 💕

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